on identity capital

For those of you who don’t know, I spent the last year living in Mid-Missouri. It was one of the most confusing and challenging times of my life to date (and trust me, I’ve had quite a few of those). I spent a lot of time alone, working, cooking, and yoga-ing. Despite the mundane, what came out of my year in Missouri was one of the richest opportunities of my life.

The time to truly reflect on who I want to be and the experiences I want to have in the future.

Defining Identity Captial

Earlier this year, I finished the book The Defining Decade by Meg Jay, Ph.D. It felt like, for the first time, I stopped asking myself, “What am I doing in Missouri?” and started framing the experience as a way for me to build something called identity capital. Throughout the book, Dr. Jay asserts that who we are is built over time, piece-by-piece, by the things in our personal and professional lives that we choose to develop. She describes these as “investments that we make in ourselves, the things we do well enough, or long enough, that they become a part of who we are.”

The longer I felt stuck in my current geography, the more it began to shape who I was becoming. What initially seemed ordinary and boring gradually turned into an unexpectedly interesting experience. Living in Missouri became an opportunity for me to invest in myself, engage with a population in the US that I hadn’t interacted with before, gain new perspectives on the investing ecosystem, and apply principles in my job that investors in the Midwest previously overlooked.

I was building identity capital.

Inflection Points

When I began reflecting on building identity capital, it led me to think about the past moments in which that capital was previously built. I distilled both circumstantial and opportunistic moments into what I believe were times of major identity capital building.

I grew up in a small town in the Pacific Northwest. My mom was a stay-at-home mother who worked weekend jobs, and my father was a public school principal. I attended a Title 1 high school where 15.8% of my classmates were homeless, and 8 out of 60 students who were in my graduating class attended a 4-year university.

At 16, I started working two jobs each summer to begin saving for college. This trend continued throughout my college years, where I worked 80–100 hours a week in the summers, juggling an internship and waitressing at two different restaurants. Plain hard work that afforded me the opportunity of education and travel.

In college, I spent two + months studying in Spain, where I worked at a startup where no one spoke English, and many of my coworkers were ex-pats from the former USSR. This environment allowed me to be unabashedly curious while building relationships in a foreign language.

Of course, I’m adding the “year in MO” to my running list. Currently, most of my identity capital moments were derived from the circumstantial. (Ex. born to a working-class family, working because I had no savings, and traveling because I did). These moments are neither net negative nor net positive but moments of inflection in who I am. The next step is creating more of these moments through situations I choose to put myself in with the purpose of building identity capital, no matter how uninteresting they may initially be. (Ex. moving to the Midwest for school)

Piece by Piece

What’s beautiful about identity capital is that it doesn’t always require substantial resources or unique opportunities. It is free to create and can be built through everyday actions — reading books, exploring new places, trying different foods, or engaging in diverse conversations. Personal identity capital is built through your own active development alongside the collective and others’ social capital/relationships, helping you move forward.

A fantastic example of this is founder Andrew Rea’s blog titled How We Got Investor Intros. Throughout the blog, Andrew talks about how he and his co-founder’s ability to get intros was a direct result of 4 to 5 years of putting themselves in a position to build their company (i.e., 4 to 5 YEARS of building the identity capital needed to do so!). Andrew breaks down his and his co-founder’s origins, careers, and network that allowed them to successfully raise. Their identity capital was ultimately “exchanged” for fundraising dollars and a chance to build their company.

Source

Adopted from: Côté and Levine (2002)

It’s this intersection of identity capital and social capital (our own and others) that allows already great people to build something exceptional.

Final Thoughts

As a young person, it’s easy to feel like you’re floating in the abyss, unsure of which direction will lead you where you want to go. I’ve found that by reframing everyday situations as opportunities to build identity capital, you can start to design a life that is interesting. My year in Missouri provided a chance for deep reflection and helped me start crafting my life around what I found was most important to me (family, friends, global citizenship, etc.)

After leaving Missouri in late May, I spent 10 weeks backpacking and working in Europe and have now settled into a new apartment in Chicago. None of these opportunities would have been remotely possible without my prioritization of building identity capital through my past, current, and future circumstances. I am beaming with pride that I formed these experiences, and I sincerely believe that other young people can as well.

You know more than anyone what your life has been like. Think about it. Spend time reflecting on what your inflection points are and what you’re doing now to build the experiences you want to have in the future.